Wednesday, July 23, 2008

why?


i had a discussion with someone just now about the whole older woman~ younger guy vs older man/younger woman relationships thing... and we were wondering why is it such a huge thing when a older woman dates or marries for that matter a younger guy? very dodgy...
but when a old guy marries or dates a young chickababe it's absolutely fine... but let an older woman rake in a younger piece of deliciousness and well it's just frowned upon... be honest... everybody thinks that... but let an old, Viagra taking 70 year old guy get himself a young piece of ass it's like... acceptable!


how very odd


why is that?


20 COMMENTS....bite me!:

Greg said...

It's just a matter of social norms. Not as common for an older woman to hook a younger man.

And it's probably more common for older men to date younger women because traditionally as a man gets older he tends to be more financially secure so has more options. As women continue to level the economic field, we should see more examples of older women dating younger men.

Regardless of sex, the same pattern should be evident: the older person in the relationship is either much more financially secure than the younger person, or the older person is more competent or socially connected in some manner (e.g., more famous).

The other issue that isn't talked about is the male perspective. The norm was that a man who entered a relationship with an older woman was generally perceived as "kept" (i.e., having a sugar mamma). Or possibly they were/are seen as a scam artist trying to victimize the older woman and take her fortune.

While women are making great advances toward equality, men in this respect gain little ground.

Asylum_Escapee said...

It's a mans world baby! :)

Previously, the world was very much chauvinistic in that it really was a man's world but as time goes by and with women coming up, this is slowly fading away. The whole older women and younger guy will also be looked upon in the same manner as the older man, younger women.

Another Angle: Women say that they mature faster than men right? (I'm not sure about this, need evidence?) So if they do, then an older man and younger women makes sense because they on the same level.

Another thing would be that, men raked in the money previously so it made sense for a younger women to recognise her greed and do what it takes to get in on the cash - albeit marriage -, the guy would just think, well you know!

I say why give a fuck, who cares what society thinks, its just as fucked up. So jol whomever you like!

As for Hugh Hefner - three babes in on his cash but he doesn't mind, he will die anyway, might as well enjoy the ride to the max. What more can be said about Hugh, a great role model and did you know they named a rabbit species after him,Apparently it's not fuck like rabbits but rather Hugh.

BecauseIcan said...

I think its because it is a known fact that men dont mature like woman (if they do at all)
So even though a woman is 25 she is probably more mature than the "viagra popping 70 year old"..

And it is *almost impossible for a guy of 25 to be on the same level as a 40 year old woman.. so its a given thats its primarily a booty call...

Just my armpit..

* I said almost.. so stop getting upset boys...

Charlene said...

angie (my former student) and i was talking about this~~why can't older women hook up with younger men more esp since the older women have more sex drive and the older men get the less they have to give
but that being said~~i have always liked older men more, but now that i am 50, maybe i should give those younger guys another chance

Ruby said...

hmm..........to be quite honest....i can't see myself dating a guy much younger than myself. I'm not talking 3 years, i'm talking 10 years or more......no sorry, just can't see it:)

Charmskool said...

The other interesting/strange phenomenon is that I find that as I get older the older men treat me as if I'm invisible whereas younger men continue to flirt with me, give me a second glance in the street, turn round to stare as they drive past etc. I was married to a man 14 years older than myself but must admit that he was very handsome and rather hot so the age didn't come into it.

angel said...

mwaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahaaaa... glugs is younger than i am!!!

MsMozi said...

This is quite a cynical view – but I think older men, especially those who during the course of their lives went through messy divorces and heartbreaks have grown jaded with the concept of ‘love’ and are quite content to do without it and just focus on having sex with a hot young chick.
They seem to not be bothered at all by the fact that the young girl is obviously in it for the dosh and is just waiting for him to peg so that she can cash in. I think women would have a much harder time accepting this.
PS – why does Hef have his hand on Holly’s tummy – she isn’t preggers is she?

Lopz said...

Actually I am of the opposite view. I think Demi and Ashton are cute, whereas I think Hef and his bunnies are just gross.

Anyway, Charlene is right - women hit their sexual peak in the late 20's / early 30's, and by that stage their older men are slowing down. It's nature's cruelest irony, given that when they're 20 all they want to do is shag the crap out of everything, and girls are a little more reserved.

So cheers to the older women snagging younger toyboys - may you have incredible sex until she goes wrinkly and he trades her in for a younger version!

sweets said...

greg> how did i know you were going to leave a comment today...!! very odd too :) yes yes and yes on all that you said 

asylum> woman generally do mature faster... but i think a 25 year old and a 65 have NOTHING in common... end of story :)~

bic> yes almost impossible but never say never :) i know you said almost...

char> go girl!

ruby> wait till you hit your thirties... :)

charm> yes! i know exactly what you mean, you get first prize today ;)

angel> tjomma... a few months right?!

mozi> i agree, good thoughts! she does look suspiciously bellyish...

lopz> ashton and demi is cute, very good example... heff is just grooooooooooooooooooooss i just can't imagine doing an old guy like that *hurl*

The Jackson Files said...

It's a crazy attitude that I think is definitely changing.

I mean, I don't like the expression, but look at the whole Cougar movement.

And I believe that there are package holidays now available for older women to go to exotic destinations and have lots of sex with young, gorgeous local boys. How awesome - if that's your thing.

You know what REALLY gets me though, it is the attitude that as a rule men age better than women. I don't agree with that at all. Just look at what Mel Gibson looks like now in comparison to Meryl Streep, for example. Or sit on the beach and look at older men and their wives. Women really hold their own in the aging beautifully stakes and we should be proud of what we look like at any age. (I realise this was a bit of a deviation off topic, but it matters to me).

angel said...

LOL...
erm, ja okay.

sweets said...

jacks> i'm glad you brought that up, i feel EXACTLY the same... such a valid point!! taking looks into account: it's OK for an old wrinkly man to chase after hot booty but if Meryl Streep for ex wanted a hot young beau people would think her to be senile. woman definitely age better BY FAR!!

i think it all gets down to ego at some stage, men want to prove that they still have IT and woman just don't bother cause they've long ago figured out they have IT~ LOL

ok you and charm now share first prize :)~

angel> but he's still younger... go girl hehe ;)

Glugster said...

Actually it's more than just a few months. I like older women. Hahahaha

expensivemistakescheapthrills said...

if she's having his babies....she's a smart, smart lady.

she will never ever have to work.

nor will them babies.

smart lady.

ozymandiaz said...

nothing odd about it at all
its called a double standard and has been the working model of the male oriented religious society since we clubbed you ladies over the head and took over

kyknoord said...

That's society for you, Sweets. A lot of norms and mores don't necessarily add up logically if you put them under a magnifying glass. Mostly though, it's all about the munneeee.

Natalie said...

Very good question hun!

Slyde said...

i dont know if i can answer this objectively. When i was 21 i dated a 37 year old for 3 years...

not the healthiest of relationships, but it was a fun ride that helped shaped my adulthood in many ways...

sleepyjane said...

I watched Girls of the Playboy mansion when I still lived with the 'rents and I actually really liked it. I think they're all great girls (Holly is annoying sometimes tho)and he is really sweet with them. He isn't shown a lot in the show but he always talks to them like they're so precious. (People would probably disagree with me on this and that's okay too.) I like Bridget the best. :)

Personally I think people should date who they want to date. It's not like we have to put up with it you know? It's that persons personal choice. All the power to them. Unfortunately people make it a big deal, which it shouldn't really be I think.

 
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