Monday, July 28, 2008

that green lil' thang




jealousy~


Tamara was the only one that caught onto this, in my recent list of 8 random thing i mentioned that i didn't have a jealous bone in my body BUT a few weeks ago i said i was jealous in a post i did.. i was already thinking about penning this down anyway cause it sounds so ridiculously callous to say that i don't have a jealous bone in my body...

so here goes... let me clarify this statement...

jealousy to me is a useless emotion... i know people who get insane with jealousy about stuff, boyfriends, family, stuff stuff stuff... and i just don't get it... must be honest... let's take the boyfriend situation... SURE touch my man and you'll lose a finger in the process but blind ugly jealous rage... the bunny boiling type... not so much hey...

ok moving on... stuff... you have a gorgeous house and i want it!... again... nice house yes... yes i would love to have my own... but it's yours! you worked for it... so how on earth can i have sleepless nights about it?

stuff stuff stuff? jewelery... jobs... cars... argh same concept... i think on some level this is actually more a personality thing than anything else... some people just can't seem to be happy in life with what they have and whatever the Jones' have parked in the drive way... well fuck they have to have one too... and I'm not like that... so do i envy other people's stuff, sure who doesn't! but that nasty crazy kind... no!

in that post i referred to i said that if i had to be jealous of somebody it would be my sister... she truly has got her life sorted... she's happy, she's happily married, she's good, she's kind, she's generous... all good stuff... and i am so impressed by the fact that she has such a sorted life that i could be jealous of that... the concept more than the things she has... BUT of all the people in the world i want my sis to get everything she wants, cause she really deserves it, that sounds so lame right... but is true! hehe...

so that's how i feel about jealousy... it's a useless emotion that people waste a lot of time on... bottom line is...

if someone has a car you want... work to get your own one!

if someone has a house you want... work to get your own one!

if someone has the boyfriend you want... look for your own one!

am i wrong? i think not... so yes... ya'll shouldn't be so hard on yourselves... you probably don't have any jealous bones in your bodies either :)

14 COMMENTS....bite me!:

leez said...

What you're saying basically is that theres a difference between envy and jealousy?

But although jealousy may be an useless emotion but does not mean its not a very real one.

sweets said...

what i'm saying is that people perhaps perceive envy as jealousy, when in fact it's two different things :)

Arkwife said...

Whatever your perception, I agree 100%.....with Sweets that is.

I'm not particularly jealous or envious. As long as I'm happy, and I can trust my man, I don't really care about what you have in your garage, or what your man is up to.

Charmskool said...

I am so with you on this. I find negative emotions like envy and hate always end up having disastrous results if acted on. I have to admit to being so un-jealous (is there such a word?) that sometimes I look indifferent to anyone trying to steal my boyfriend. It's not that at all - I am supremely confident that if he loves me best he won't succumb and if he doesn't then I don't want to battle some other woman he like better for him.
I'm not really envious of other peoples' possessions because I have most of what I want myself and if I had everything, there'd be nothing to look forward to.

BecauseIcan said...

I know some bunny boilers...LMFAO!!

lololol...

So let me see if I understand what your saying there sweets...ehem..

Your not jealous.. but you will rip the leg off of anychick that attempts to throw it over your boyfriend?

Right?

In that case,I am not jealous either.. but I do have a fine collection of legs if you wanna look?

Maeve said...

I like the way you think! Because you want something they have doesn'T mean you are jealous of them!

The Jackson Files said...

Maybe a certain amount of envy/jealousy as you describe it is good because it pushes you to achieve more (posessions and position I guess).

I think it's the jealousy that's driven by insecurity that is so damaging and dangerous, that's when you get the whole bunny-boiling thing. Especially when it comes to relationships.

M@ said...

How fortunate that you have no use for jealousy, a prime emotion. It's useful to humans for mate-guarding and ensuring biological success... but some are immune to it.

I had a black friend who liked to play around and I asked him if he got jealous of his wife.

"I don't have time to be concerned about what my wife's doing," he says.

Beautiful.

Slyde said...

no, you are on target... there is a difference between being jealous, and envious. I think you are the latter....

Angela said...

I agree! Jealousy IS useless. There's no good reason for it.

Charlene said...

if people used the energy that they use on jealous and envy, they would most likely have what they covet~~bad energy, who needs it~~i don't
glad to find like minded people

angel said...

echoing leez here...

Kingcover said...

I read the title of this post and thought it was going to be about me. Lol! :-P

Jealousy is lousy ;-)

Southern Sage said...

you got it right!

 
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