Wednesday, June 4, 2008

i did a horrible thing


forfuckssakes... i did something that had to be done... and yet i feel heartbroken and sad and sorry all at the same time... it's literally the end of an era for me and the kids... and yet i still know i did the right thing... well i hope so in any case.

i broke the news to Jay about Father Christmas and the Tooth Fairy... although i just didn't have it in me to tell him about the Easter bunny too... couldn't imagine breaking 3 dreams in one day... *plonk*plonk*plonk*... it was horrible, i've wanted to keep this myth alive for him as long as possible but it's such a difficult thing, when do you come out with the truth?... i couldn't leave it to some snot nosed tactless kid at school to tell him ... Jay is now 8 going on 9 and if anybody at school would have told him about these things he would have either...


  1. knocked their teeth out

  2. violently defenced Christmas Father in his absence to his own huge embarrassment later on

and like my sister said, if you get to the stage where you are ready to defend Father Christmas with a bloody nose... it's probably time you knew the truth :)

so I've been toying with the idea for a while but just didn't have the heart to tell him and on Saturday we were discussing Christmas and I thought... nooit, it's now or never...

Jay, I have to tell you something about Father Christmas...

I know... I know!!!... he's only bringing me one present, sheesh!!!... (dejected face mwhahahahahahaha was very funny)

No my baby, if only that was it... see it's not that I've been lying to you... it's just... although I believe in Christmas Father, not everybody in the world believes in him... it's a bit impossible for one person to deliver millions of presents all across the world in one night don't you think...

you could have knocked my kid over with a feather.... his eyes were huge and frozen in it's sockets...i shit you not... i hated every second of that conversation...

ARE YOU SERIOUS???? (he sat thinking, still with the shocked expression on his face... for a minute or two)... so who brings our presents???!!!!

it's amazing that these things never dawns on them, totally precious...

it's me silly :)

and then he smiled a huge smile ~ either telling me that all his presents so far was some pretty neat gifts... or seeing the possibility to wrap mommy around his little finger for christmas :)

phew...

21 COMMENTS....bite me!:

Ruby said...

awe hun! don't feel aweful....you did a good thing!!!

funny that....i can't remember ever having the talk with the folks about the tooth fairy and easter bunny and father Christmas.....i just always new they weren't real....nobody said anything..i just knew...odd

phillygirl said...

paahahahaha, that's actually hysterical. I've never even thought about how one would do that as a parent. I certainly can't even remember how (if?) my folks ever did. Sheesh, one extra little thing to have to remember for one day when ...

:)

sweets said...

rubes and philly: i know i can't remember it either! but that's the thing... a kid get's to an age where he figures it out by himself... kay did... but not J! he's merrily going along life, not questioning anything, just accepting things as they are... mwhahahahahah

it's a good and a bad thing!

The Jackson Files said...

That is a great story.

I think you handled it really well (actually so did J).

Hmmmm, just think of al the tricky chats there are still to come though...

angel said...

aaaaw poor j!
you know, i never did that with the knucklehead. after he was with me to do "the shopping" on a few occasions i think he cottoned on...

sleepyjane said...

Ahhhh, that must have been hard. I can't remember if I ever believed in Father Christmas. *shakes head*

I do know that I believed in the 'tand muis' until I found my tooth in my mom's drawer. So there went that fantasy. :) I still got money so that was awesome.

The desk pic is up as requested!

supermom said...

Quintus (8) worked that one out for himself a year or so ago. Thankfully he is still keeping Santa alive for his little brothers!

The Divine Miss M said...

Awww that is so sad. I remember how upset I was when I found out! But it is better than being teased relentlessy at school about believing in Father Christmas.

I'm pretty sure it is only a short time away until he realises that the Easter Bunny doesn't exist. That one really is the most implausible one ever.

I mean a BUNNY delivering EGGS????? Explain THAT one!

The Easter Chicken makes more sense!

sweets said...

jacks: luckily he was more than "ready" for the news... it's actually weird that he hasn't put it all together before :)

angel: that's what i also thought... but he believed me every time i told him that Santa was busy and asked me to help mwhahahahahahaha

jane: of course you believed! hehe
thanks i saw!!! :)

mom: that was the next part of the conversation, he's got 3 cousins that he sees on a daily basis, so made him PROMISE that he will play along and keep his mouth shut!

miss m: mwhahahahahhahahaha i know!!! that's why i didn't really bother...

kyknoord said...

I was quite relieved when I was told the truth about the tooth mouse (no fairies in our house, apparently). I was more than a little bit uncomfortable with the thought of vermin wandering about in my bed when I was sleeping.

sweets said...

LOL kyk... I also thought of that so I always told them that the little vermin knocks on the front door late at night and then I let him in AND escort him out again... mwhahahahahaha aw man the things we tell our kids and worse the things they believe!!!

Tamara said...

Hehehe... well handled. My mother used to give me fruit for lunch at school, and if I didn't eat it the one day, the same soggy plum would appear in my lunchbox the next day. So I used to hide the fruit in my room. One day, I left a tooth out for the mouse. I happened to leave a soggy plum next to it. Mom obviously thought I'd left it for the mouse. The next day there was a massive human bite mark in that damn plum. It was overs after that.

Glugster said...

WHAT!!!!! Father Christmas doesn't exist?!?!?!? So who was the fat dude eating all my milk and cookies last year?

Flip Flop Momma said...

ok, where do u live that u refer to santa as father christmas?...this is buggin the shitt outta me...

My olest is 11, he knows there is no santa tooth fairy and whatnot..but still when he loses a tooth, he is totally peeved he didnt get anything.

My 8 year old daugher kinda knows, the 4 year old is clueless..

But I think this year I need to have the talk with the 8year old..

she is nearly a woman and needs to know that these men to, are nuttin but a let down.

The Chronicles of a Fashionista in PDX said...

Aw, that would be hard to do! I'm glad everything turned out well!

What an adorable blog :)

Southern Sage said...

well I just had a thought......
if you deliver your kids gift(s)could I bribe u into coming to my house for some gift delivery too?
;-)~

Jenty said...

Oooh how heartbreaking! I really dread the day that happens here!

SheBee said...

Oh my god, your poor child! Hee hee. Thats so sweet, I can't believe the myth stayed alive for so long with him.

sweets said...

tam: oh no! LOL that's hilarious...

glug: LOL hmmmm.... your neighbour?

flipflop: hehe yeah men are all the same i agree :) i live in South Africa doll face, we call Santa various different names here i guess, but i grew up with Father Christmas, is that weird?!

pdx: thanks! yeah it was kinda hard, guess i had to cruel to be kind ;)~

sage: hmmmmmmmmmmmm remember naughty boys don't get anything :)~

jenty: i just kind of figured he would do the math you know... wel toe nou nie!

sheebee: i know! hehe poor baby :)

Flip Flop Momma said...

yup, its weird:)

haha

The Blonde Blogshell said...

At 25, I'm still devastated Santa doesn't exist. Haha! Everyone thinks I'm kidding, but I'm serious. There was something magical and innocent about it...however, well done for telling him...I found out the hard way (no bloody nose though) and I cried my little eyes out.
Well done Mama Sweets!!

 
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